I’m sitting down to my computer for the first time in over a week after returning from an amazing destination wedding, which we extended into a vacation as well. We visited Playa Del Carmen on the Riviera Maya strip of the Caribbean shoreline. As beautiful as any experience like this is, the first time traveling with a significant other also holds some lessons to be learned.
If you are traveling for an extended period of time with your significant other, odds are you’ve already spent your share of nights and/or weekends together. Maybe a Valentine’s Day getaway or a hotel room in the city to celebrate a birthday or anniversary.
A “real” vacation, though, brings a whole new set of circumstances to the table which can help illuminate the potential (or lack thereof) for your future together. Here are seven reasons why you should book a trip with the special someone in your life sooner rather than later.
1. You learn how your partner handles stress.
Being at your destination when you are traveling is great – but that doesn’t mean actually getting there is going to be. Traveling can be stressful, flights can be delayed or missed, new languages or cultures have to be adapted to, and you can face a whole slew of other unpredictable challenges.
While you may know how your partner handles the stresses of everyday life, life is going to change for both of you throughout the years. How do they adapt to being taken out of their comfort zone? This is a great way to get those questions answered.
2. You learn how your partner handles relaxation.
This may seem a little counter-intuitive. How does someone have to ‘handle’ relaxation, exactly? It’s more a matter of how you like to spend your free time when there is no schedule governing your days. Do you like to get up early and make coffee, go to the hotel gym? Explore the place you are visiting? If you do, odds are that your partner wanting to stay in bed until noon every day and sauntering around in their bathrobe probably won’t fly. And, vice versa of course.
3. You can disconnect from the world and connect to each other.
The stresses of daily life can encroach on the mental well-being of the best of us. This can negatively effect our relationships as well. To be able to let go, relax, and breathe, will allow you the emotional freedom to really be with each other.
Some people will say that it’s easy to have a good time with anyone when you’re in a beautiful location, but as far as I’m concerned, if you’re with the wrong person…you’re with the wrong person. No amount of sunsets or palm trees will take away the urge to leave them in the room and go to the bar. This time together will enhance whatever feelings you have for each other, good or bad.
This, of course, helps increase your intimacy as a couple as well.
4. You create beautiful memories together.
I have really begun to appreciate the value of experiences over material items (well, to an extent, ha). But particularly when sharing new things with the person you love, or giving them a gift, the memories and personal growth that come from these experiences are priceless.
No matter where life brings you or what happens along the way, these times together will forever remain in your hearts.
5. You can work together as a team.
Every person has their own individual strengths and weaknesses. If you are at the point where you’re traveling together, you likely have an idea of where each of you excel and fill in each other’s gaps like pieces to a puzzle. But when you are traveling and exploring new places together, you can really flex your collaborative muscles. As the saying goes, two heads are better than one.
6. You have someone who pushes you to try new things.
Maybe one of you tends to stay within their comfort zone more than the other – but all bets are off when you’re on vacation. Things you wouldn’t do when you’re at home suddenly become a little more appealing when you’ve got a beautiful exotic backdrop behind you…and a person you love and want to see happy who wants to get up on that plane and then jump out of it. I guarantee you will look back and be glad you did whatever it is they had to convince you to do.
7. You expand your perception of the world together.
As the famous quote states: “The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page.” The fact of the matter is that people who see different parts of the world simply have a different perspective. It may be appreciating the language barrier people face, or just appreciating how fortunate they were to be born in a first world country. Traveling can transform you, so to share these opportunities to grow with your significant other will help the two of you stay on the same page into the future.
Not that exotic locations and beautiful destinations particularly “need” a reason to be traveled to – but vacations expand our horizons and increase the quality of our lives. They are every bit as much of our reality as a typical work week. They are not an escape from life, they are integral pieces of creating a life we love living.
The only thing better than creating the life you love, is creating it with the person you love by your side.