There comes a time when someone feels like they lack self-confidence. They are either depressed, confused or bullied. Everybody believes that self-confidence is something innate, but you’re wrong. Confidence is something everyone can acquire, and the key to that is repetition and especially persistence. Practice makes perfect as we say, and if you really want to come across as Gordon Gekko or Obama on a stage, you better start practicing.
A person’s posture has a lot to do with a strong push of self-esteem. Indeed, stretching up, and taking up space with your arms wide open makes you feel powerful, therefore confident. Studies have shown how maintaining a dominant posture for about 2 minutes will boost your confidence, and as we know that leads to great things, from rocking at a job interview, blowing minds in meetings or dropping people’s jaws on stages. This also explains the gesture that athletes do when they win: they stretch both arms up towards the sky to celebrate their achievements with pride and confidence. It is for that matter that, how you perceive things and more importantly how you see yourself when you look in the mirror, is what brings miracles out of you.
You are a question to the world everyone wants to answer, but you have to find the answer to your own first, or else you will be downsized to whatever explanations others give to you. Build yourself up to find those statements and with compliments and positive sayings such as “I can” and “I have the power to”, you will make your way up quickly and easily.
We all know that thoughts influence actions hence think big to become big. Stand up with your shoulders straight, chin up and eyes sharp, then you will break any obstacle that tries to distract you from aiming at your target. Remember that no one will believe in you unless you do. As W.E.Henly says in invictus:
I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul.
And no one could ever say otherwise unless you make them believe so.
However, negative self talks going through your head could demoralize you and pejorative reflections could crash your motives . And with that approach, you will be going back instead of forward. Your work does not necessarily see the sun overnight but with repetition and persistence it will progress regularly until it reaches the top where no one could ever beat up your morale.
Self-confidence has nothing to do with false pride or ego, it is a skill you establish in your mind until it becomes a state, a fact that will be hard to destroy and would bring nothing but greatness to your life. You know you enjoy a specific position while you feel a certain way so let mental strength be yours forever.