Do you know what you would do if your partner cheats on you? Do you know how you would react if you get fired? Do you know what values are guiding you in your life?
Being alone does not equal to loneliness. A lonely person is someone who asks why the universe is against them. But being alone is different from being lonely. It is a time for you to just to be you and nurture the relationship with yourself. It is a gift to yourself if you want to have a more meaningful life. It’s time to revolutionize the idea of having the right to give yourself a time to talk to YOU as if you’re talking to someone you love. If that doesn’t sell you, here are other reasons why:
To listen to yourself
Do you talk to yourself as you would to someone you love? A lot of us are dependent on getting happiness from other people. We go out to socialize and try to have a good time. Sometimes when we’re with our friends we often listen to their problems and as part of being a good pal, we advice them and play the role of a shrink. But do we ever do that with ourselves? And how do we talk to ourselves when we listen to our problems? It’s important to learn how to listen to yourself, because how you feel about your life is associated with how you respond to the situations going on. But remember to listen with a keen heart, because opening your ears the way you do in your boring history class won’t cut it. You have to actually listen!
To simplify your life
Life is not complex. We make it complex. If you look at all areas of your everyday routine: Relationships, education, career, money and health: you’re responsible of nurturing each of them, and as you can see, there are not a million of them! If you’re not satisfied with one area, it’s signaling that it needs simplification by removing problems that might not even have to be there in the first place. Stop over-thinking and overcomplicating: Take some time out, and get your house back in order. That’s what being alone is about.
To get to know your values
Knowing your values will guide your decisions through life, which is why it is crucial to nurture your relationship with yourself. Values such as integrity and determination are very well used, especially at work. But how does each of them apply in your life? Do you know the meaning of the values you’re using? If you value integrity, were you being truthful to yourself when you ate burgers and fries last night although you wanted to lose weight?
To give your brain a break
How do you feel after a holiday? Energized! In a society where our friends, families, the news and work are buzzing our phones and newsfeed 24/7, we rarely think about how it affects our mind. We have learned that when we’re feeling hungry, we should eat. But we haven’t learned what to do when we’re feeling overwhelmed and stressed. Many people take pills to cure the headache, but pills may just get you by for a while, so it’s not a real solution after all (That’s if they don’t mess you up in the first place!)
Instead, even if you have 10-20 minutes of alone-time, embrace it! Remember that you don’t have to be on constantly. Replenish your mind, breathe deeply and invite positive thoughts into your life, about your life. It sure is a holiday for your brain.
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