Have you ever noticed that when you have your mind set on achieving a specific goal or you’re headed in the direction of massive success your closest friends and family tend to want to get in the way? Spending the holiday season with my family every year I realize more and more the greatest gift I can give them is the gift of proving them wrong. While their beliefs and values are incredibly different than mine and I love spending time with them I also love leaving them knowing that I can’t and won’t allow their beliefs and values to influence mine because the distinct difference between those who are massively successful and those who aren’t is their Mindset.
I’ve heard every excuse and reason why it won’t work from my family and I’m sure you can relate. Excuses ranging from you don’t have the tools, knowledge, resources, or the right relationships to you aren’t good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, educated enough, you don’t know what you’re doing and no one has ever done that before what makes you think that you can? And while I hear their concerns I refuse to allow their concerns to become my fears. It’s taken a long time to get from where I was to where I am today and it was no easy road in fact it can be challenging from time to time still today and we all have our off days regardless of our level of success. But the reality is we all have a choice, we all have a decision to make to allow those limiting beliefs to get in the way of our success or to focus our time, effort, and energy on what truly matters most to us that being our OWN goals, hopes, and dreams.
Yes no one in my family has been successful at owning, operating or profiting by creating their own business, no one in my family has made over 6 figures before and certainly not 7, no one in my family has gone out on a limb and risked everything to make their dream a reality, no one in my family was willing to call BS on all of the limiting beliefs, obstacles, and temporary setbacks in their way NOT because they weren’t strong enough BUT because they didn’t realize how strong they actually were.
Achieving this level of success is no easy task, moving past limiting beliefs that have been programmed into you from birth takes balls, and dedicating yourself to not quitting when things get rough is extremely difficult there is no question about that but achieving this level of success, making this level of sacrifices, committing to this many hours of personal growth, talking to thousands of people, hearing the word no over and over and over is what makes you stronger not weaker. It increases your level of knowledge and intellect and pushes you further with every action and decision you make.
More than anything to get to this place in life you have to be coachable and vulnerable. It’s like going to the doctor’s office when he/she asks you to take off your clothes and put on that gown you listen. Do you want to do it? Absolutely not! Do you feel comfortable doing it? Absolutely not! Are you scared, nervous, panicked, insecure, annoyed, worried, terrified of course you are! There is no question about that no one goes into the doctor’s office happy, comfortable, and ready to be stripped of their clothes and examined. No one starts the journey of entrepreneurship thinking I want to get “naked” and vulnerable but in order to survive and thrive you have to. The quickest way to learn is to grow, the quickest way to grow is to be examined, and the easiest way to do that is by hiring a specialist and getting “naked”. I know what you’re thinking and hey these are the very things no one wants to talk about but this is the reality of how the best outshine the rest.