A Real Bro: 10 Signs He’s Secretly A Jerk

Not all men who are players are just players. Some work harder to put on more of an act in order to get, and keep your attention – but they’re not really who they say they are.

A fake gentleman is a more evolved version of a player. He puts on a facade for an even longer time than it takes for a one night stand. He may keep up appearances for awhile but he does small things along the way that make you raise your eyebrows and wonder if he really is who he saids he is.

Here are a few signs that indicate that he isn’t what he tells you to be.

1. He is nice to you, but not to those around you

I always encourage women to pay attention to how their man treats the waitress/waiter, bartender, doorman, those on the street, or others whom he has no formal interest in. His level of kindness towards people that he doesn’t anticipate seeing again will speak volumes about his personality.

There is a famous quote (attributed to multiple individuals) that says “The true measure of an individual is how he treats a person who can do nothing for him.” This is always something to keep in mind – words can be dishonest, but actions can’t.

2. He only talks about your looks

If a man is pursuing you consistently but doesn’t actually seem to be interested in who you are as a person or what drives you in life, it may behoove you to question his intentions. Is he always only giving you physical compliments or just wanting you to come over to spend the night at his place?

If he is not actually working to learn about you, then it’s time to re-evaluate.

3. Your arguments get out of hand

A gentleman who loses his temper frequently is no gentleman at all. A man of quality understands the importance of being able to control his emotions, and not the other way around – especially in terms of how he interacts with his women.

He could be the nicest guy in the world when things are going his way, but if he can’t handle disagreement or adversity, he is displaying some red flags you shouldn’t ignore.

In addition to this – if he is consistently getting into fights or conflicts when you’re out in public, his violent tendencies are likely to eventually permeate other areas of his life. Do not ignore it.

4. He never gives you straight answers

A woman’s intuition is a powerful force, but so many choose to ignore it. If you feel that the man you’re with is hiding something from you or is always dodging important issues, then you need to listen to your gut feeling and realize that he may not be being honest with you or could be hiding something from you.

5. You don’t feel like he trusts you

Unless a man has a reason to distrust you, your relationship should be built on mutual respect and confidence in each other. If someone is accusatory or suspicious towards you when you haven’t done anything to deserve it, there is a chance he could be projecting his own dishonesties (I just made that word up) onto you.

In other words, he may be doing something wrong but placing blame onto you so you’ll feel guilty and won’t think to accuse him of the same injustice.

6. He talks shit about those who are close to him

Is he all sunshine and rainbows when he is around his friends and family, but turns a whole other shade when the two of you are alone? Not everyone will get along famously with every family member or friend they have, but how are you supposed to trust someone who you know talks badly about those they “love” behind their backs, when he is supposed to love you also?

7. He doesn’t give you any freedom

Do you feel like you can’t have your own friends or your own life? A man who is secure in himself, you, and your relationship – will trust you enough to understand that you both have your own lives and interests.

Trust your instincts – if he frames his obsessiveness to sound like genuine caring, but you feel suffocated and cut off from the world, he might be a fentleman.

8. He’s a different person when he’s with his friends

Do his poker nights with his buddies consist of “women belong in the kitchen” jokes? Yikes. Is he just trying to act cool around them, or is this how he really feels and he is just playing the nice guy when he’s with you? Either way – it shows he is inconsistent in how he acts around different people, and that is a warning sign in itself.

How are you supposed to know how he acts around his friends when you’re not there? If you’re in a committed relationship, you probably know some of his friends or see them on Facebook. Odds are, they are a reflection of his real personality and vice versa. You are the company you keep, as they say.

9. He discourages you in any way

Be very weary of any man who doesn’t fully stand behind you and support everything you want to do in life. If a man ever tries to discourage you from pursuing greatness in your life, it could be a red flag that he is too insecure to follow his own dreams, and he is worried that if you follow yours, you will outgrow him and move on.

You owe it to yourself to be with someone who will motivate you to grow and advance in life as he does the same himself.

10. He is emotionally or physically abusive towards you

It’s time to get serious for a moment. No matter how “nice” or “kind” or “gentlemanly” any man is, the second he shows you any sign of abuse, you absolutely cannot ignore or justify his actions. He is showing you who he really is and no amount of intermittent kindness can ever make up for it. You need to walk away immediately.

Some men are great at putting on a show for a woman that they are interested in. Sometimes the truth is that they are more interested in themselves and their own benefit. Once you start picking up signals that he is just doing or saying things to keep you around – you have to realize that you deserve better.

A man who puts in the bare minimum is like the employee who works just hard enough to not get fired. He will step up his game right before the hammer drops to keep his spot, and then it’s back to slacking off again.

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