Sitting in a room with all my friends, I realized that I am so much different than they are, my own friends, the people I chose to hang around with. How is it that their views on life and business can be so different than my own? None of them can see an opportunity when it hits them in the face, not one of them would “throw away that much money” to hire a coach and none of them are willing to take a small risk in stocks to make a great gain, let alone risk everything you have to start a business.
It is absolutely pointless for me to even discuss or argue with them about business or any other entrepreneurial related topic because they have been taught and raised with the simple collective idea that you go to school, achieve decent grades, get an education and finally get a good job behind a desk somewhere. Absolutely nothing I say now can change their minds, no matter how hard I try to tell them that they could actually gain financial freedom, help their family with what ever they wanted, fulfill their dreams and live life on their own terms instead of having to listen to some stuck up boss that tells you what to do for the rest of your life.
Every time I try to explain my concept to these individuals, in the hope of maybe changing their minds or at least giving them another perspective to perceive business or entrepreneurship from, they get this crazy idea that I’m trying to set myself above them or that I’m saying that they won’t be successful otherwise in their desired field, which I’m obviously not. Frankly I hate it, so I have completely stopped myself from even coming close to talking about these topics, about how they could live life on their own terms, and will let my “craziness” speak for itself.
Without saying, there are big risks you have to take in order to achieve the “financial freedom” I mentioned earlier, but the reward is well worth it. And of course every now and then you have a setback or two, but as long as you stay focused and determined and make the best moves you can, you’ll bounce back two-fold!
There are so many different ways to be successful in life, but for me, being successful means that I accomplished the one task that I set out to do, everything else I get or do that comes along with the success is a bonus. So what is that one goal that I have? A while back, about three years ago, my brother and I were talking about business (away from my friends) and how we both wanted to establish our own ventures and business so that we could do what we desired, without putting any limitation to our imagination and truly live without having to worry about anything. In short, we both basically wanted to become millionaires, and I mean who doesn’t? But that’s not really the point.
The point was our elaborations as to why we wanted to become entrepreneurs and run our own empires. A motivation that many young individuals have which really boosts them towards achieving their goals. You see, our parents and grandparents worked extremely hard their entire life in order to sustain our family to the comfortable point we are at today. They did absolutely everything in their power to give us what they didn’t have during their childhood and upbringing. Because lets face it, most of us are spoiled brats compared to our parents’ upbringing, something I realized later on in life, as I started appreciating and noticing the little things.
So I vowed to myself that I would get my family to that “next level”, and agreed that I would do whatever it takes, no matter what, so that they no longer had to worry about the financial expenses we all worry about and enjoy the rest of their lives. And keep in mind, no matter what, I would never give up!
My goal was to hit the million dollar mark by the time I turned 30, if not sooner. Not because I felt like that was enough money to set my family up for life, but just because it was a benchmark that would tell me if I was reaching my goal or if I needed to re-think things. Now of course there were other things I want to do – cancer research- since it has had such an impact on my family, skydiving and other crazy stuff I had written down on my bucket-list!
These are all attainable goals though, and I felt like I definitely could make a huge difference if I just had the guts to put my mind to it. But, surprisingly enough, I was told by a friend that this goal was “pretty illogical” and that I should just focus on getting my degree and getting a good, high-paying job that would provide for my family, because that is what’s more “realistic”. She then proceeded to tell me that it couldn’t happen anyway because my heart was in it for the wrong reasons. Not realistic? Wrong reasons? It was crazy, she was telling me this as if it was unachievable, when in fact, it wasn’t!
It’s like I said earlier, my friends don’t have the same mentality as you and I, so when they state illogical dumb statements like that, we may ending up having a little heated argument (especially with the “illogical” comment). As far as what the “right” reasons were concerned, she couldn’t tell me, but if this isn’t a reason to accomplish any goals, then this isn’t the world I want to live in! Let me tell you something; there are almost no wrong reasons to pursue your dreams, no matter how wild, unrealistic and difficult they may be. Don’t be afraid to have those “unrealistic” goals, because the only people who do think they´re unrealistic are the individuals who are afraid of stepping out of their comfort zone to see how great they can actually be.
Take those risks, and make that leap of faith.
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