You’ve probably heard these five phrases over and over again- usually by people giving you unsolicited advice hoping you’ll be inspired to do something great. Well, these clichés have been either extremely worn out or badly misinterpreted, which is why they are now the top five rules you should break.
“Birds of a feather flock together”
When breaking this rule, your best bet is to achieve a happy medium of the following three points. First of all, don’t ever force a friendship to last forever. If it does, then by all means, celebrate how lucky you are. But if it doesn’t, remember that people may naturally grow apart because their aspirations or personalities hit a junction. Just stay mature about it. Second, don’t be afraid to welcome new people into your social circle- not all your friends need to be like you. The more efforts you make to immerse yourself in environments different from those you’re used to, the more you’ll learn about and understand other people. Lastly, keep in mind that quality often, if not always, succeeds quantity when it comes to building friendships.
“Face your fears”
The whole point of being around something you’re afraid of isn’t always to overcome that fear. After all, you could argue that if you’re willing to confront the fear, then you weren’t that afraid in the first place. Fear is one hell of a powerful feeling, so by going through with something you’re scared of, you can train yourself to replace the negative thoughts with positive ones. You can be terrified of public speaking every time you deliver a speech, but you will become more confident in your abilities if you’re able to think of all the advantages giving that speech as opposed to counting the number of times you stuttered.
“Perfection is key”
Think of perfection as that mirage-like puddle of water you see in the distance while driving down a long asphalt highway in the blistering heat. The closer you get to it, the further it becomes. In fact, it doesn’t even exist. Perfection can be a massive setback and an obstacle to finishing something you started. It’s one of the main reasons why people hesitate after working hard to create or achieve something. Don’t keep waiting for yourself to feel completely confident and happy with a project. Instead, think of ways to balance perfection with time and effort.
“Pick a side”
While it’s good to know where you stand during an important disagreement between two people, staying on the fence may actually be the right thing to do in the long run. If you pick a side, you automatically become a part of the problem. Not only will you be taken more seriously if you play the diplomat, but being relatively detached and objective could lessen your chances of creating any unnecessary animosity.
“Don’t give up”
I don’t mean to end this on a pessimistic note, but I’m not trying to say that you should throw all your hard work and determination out the window either. What I’m trying to say is that, setbacks and failures are inevitable. Reaching success, whatever that may be for you, is all about mastering the art of knowing when to walk away- not give up. If you know that something you are trying to do is unrealistic or daunting, whether it’s a startup project or even a romantic relationship, learn how to walk away. This is an important skill to practice because you need to remember that your decisions should control the situations you’re in, and not vice versa. Letting these things go is the only way to move on to something better without losing your pride and dignity on the way.
These are just five out of hundreds of so-called motivational phrases that your buddies use for pep talks, trying to motivate you to do better or make the right choices. But somewhere along the line, misconceptions and delusions of life-based concepts where perceived differently through an unrealistic spectrum that just doesn’t, theoretically, add up. So next time you Google mainstream quotes to share on Instagram, make sure you have a fully comprehensive and logical understanding of what “rules are meant to be broken” actually means.
Morale of the story, everyone is influenced by society. We can’t help it. We like to believe that we are free and autonomous individuals, but the truth is, parents, teachers, CEOs, politicians, and religious figures play a huge role in the decisions we make and how we choose to live our lives.
At an early age, we need guidance before we can learn how to live in the world on our own. Unfortunately, during this time we can get a lot of ideas stuck in our head that aren’t necessarily helpful or true.
It’s important to question what we learn from society and what society expects from us. Parents, teachers, bosses, politicians, and religious figures may have the best intentions at heart, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they know what is good for each one of us individually.
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